To assist women who have had an affair to heal their hearts, build confidence and self-worth.
A world in which women feel empowered to rise above judgment and criticism, recognise that the affair is an invitation to get to know themselves intimately, and fall in love with themselves to move forwards.
Only on looking back at my life can I see how every experience filled with trauma and pain brought all the teachings perfectly together for me to create the "After Affair to FLAIR" system. I am honoured and humbled by the process...
Wanda's Journey to Discover...
...The Strength I Needed Was In Myself.
The Classical Beginning...
I’ve been married for five-and-a-half years with my first love. It was idyllic. We got the house, nice car, two dogs, career was flying...
But I felt numb inside.
I secretly had a crush on my husband’s new friend. Only to discover he felt the same way. We started a “just for fun” affair, since he was married too.
I fell head-over-heels in love. So in love, I left my husband and secure life. Despite building all my hopes up that my lover would do the same (I believed all his promises), he dumped me. My world fell apart.
Wow. I was bereft. Lost. Nowhere. Alone.
The Spiral Downwards
Looking back, I was in a state of shock. At times I thought I was OK, just getting on with life, but I really wasn't. In truth, I was desperate. Barely coping.
I read self-help books. Went for Tarot readings. Went to see two psychiatrists. Was on antidepressants for a while. Used more recreational drugs than before.
Clung onto my brother as a desperate attempt for love and connection.
I Worked harder at work and at the gym, but everything I did was just surface-level sticking-plasters.
The Moment of Revelation
Nothing made the pain disappear. I even entered another very dysfunctional 7-year relationship. Of course, that wasn't the answer.
Eventually, I hit rock bottom. I still felt worthless, heartbroken and hopeless-deep inside. Especially seeing him and her at the gym or clubs.
And then, gradually, over a very long time of reflection and searching for answers, I realised where I was going wrong.
The problem is not 'out there'. The problem is not 'men'. The solution is not 'out there' either. The solution is not in medication or alcohol or innocently - unwittingly - repeating self-destructive cycles.
The answers were inside myself.
The Evolved Me...
It had taken a long period of turning circles and reflection, but I had finally grown a new understanding. I realised that I was the cause of my own suffering.
We are a function of our past experiences. This is why we repeat cycles, even if they are harmful.
I had discovered that we can't experience anything outside of ourselves. There is no knowledge 'out there'. Just information. Everything we know is inside ourselves, and the more we listen to and nurture what is inside ourselves, the more improvements we find happening 'out there' in our present.
Life is not about what happens to you, it's what you do with it.
Life is happening through you. For you. The journey is to learn how to own that.
I saved my current relationship from potentially also falling apart with this revolutionary understanding. My now husband saw the change in me. Guess what. We discovered that he had issues he hadn't dealt with. And he changed too.
We have a deep, meaningful connection filled with laughter and love. It just gets better. Seriously.
Connect with Wanda Today
Let's book a time to work together so that you can get on the path to healing and becoming the best version of yourself again.
On this NO-Obligation 30-minute call we will:
- Get to know each other.
- Understand your current situation and feelings.
- Establish if this is the program for you.
- Discuss a roadmap for you to get from where you are to where you want to be.
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